When J and I first started dating, we spent quite a lot of time meeting up for dates and just hanging out. We hadn’t been dating long when I moved back to my parents’ place for the summer, in order to intern for a judge, after my first year of law school. During that time, we initiated “date night,” where we’d meet up after work during the week, go on a date, and then go home. It was a great way to see each other during the work week (when we lived 2 hours apart), while still preventing the relationship from moving too far, too fast. So, here are some of my favorite “date night” activities, which we still incorporate into our relationship today!
During our summer date nights, many times J and I would meet up in the city, pick up take-out from a local restaurant, and then drive to the nearest state park for a picnic. We’d have dinner in the grass and then walk around and talk, just getting to know each other more and talking about anything and everything. I really fell in love with J during these dates. We were only a few months into our relationship when we instituted “date night” over the summer, and those evenings of just sitting and talking brought about a closeness that we probably wouldn’t have developed as quickly, any other way. Even now, when it’s nice outside, we’ll often pack a picnic and go find a quiet spot to sit and relax, and talk about life.
2. Duckpin Bowling
I’m the world’s worst bowler. Seriously. It was several years before I ever broke a triple digit score in bowling, and even now, J will give me a hard time about my less than fabulous bowling skills. Regardless, I love it! It’s fun, it’s active, and it always gets me laughing. J and I decided to give duckpin bowling a try during one of our early dates, and I have to say that I like it much better than regular bowling. The bowling balls are smaller, as are the pins, and it’s just so delightfully old-fashioned! There’s a really neat duckpin bowling place in downtown where we go, that has a lot of really unique restaurants nearby. It’s a perfect evening and great for a date!
3. Cooking Classes
J and I never did this as a date prior to marriage, but we have gone to cooking classes as married couples, and I have to say they’re a great time! If you and your partner enjoy cooking (or hell…even enjoy eating), then this could be a great date night! J and I have taken cooking classes in both Hungary and Morocco, and we love the opportunity to learn a new cooking technique, spend time together, and share a great meal that we made together. Of course, even if you don’t have any local cooking classes you can do for a date night, there’s nothing stopping you from just cooking a meal together in your kitchen. Sharing space and working together are great ways to improve your relationship, and you can reap the rewards of a fantastic meal afterwards (bonus points for including a good bottle of wine). And the best thing of all, there are plenty of beginner recipes on the internet that walks you through new recipes and techniques, so just find one that looks good, grab your partner, and get cooking!
4. Rock Climbing
Now, this one isn’t for the faint of heart. But, if you really like being active, and like to incorporate teamwork into your date nights, then rock climbing is a great way to do it. Rock climbing is fun, even as a beginner, and it really brings out a sense of adventure. As a plus, it also really works on trust between couples (because being suspended 40 feet above the ground while your partner holds on to the rope definitely requires trust) and can help bring you closer to your partner. J and I really enjoy indoor rock climbing, because you can even go in the winter and not freeze your tail off, and it’s a fantastic workout that is fun while being challenging. If you and your partner are the adventurous and thrill-seeking type, then this date night activity is definitely for you!
5. Movie Night
What better way to spend an evening together than curled up together (at the movie theatre or at home on the couch) watching a movie with a bowl of popcorn. Those tentative touches as your hands glance off each other while reaching for the popcorn kernels. THIS is what date nights are made of, people! If you want to go one better, pick a scary movie so that you can spend the evening clinging to your man (or, equal opportunity, clinging to your woman) as the suspenseful music creeps you out. There’s a reason why the most clichéd options are sometimes the best, because they’re the tried and true methods of dating. So go out there, fight over which movie is one you’re willing to sit through, and hunker down on the couch with your loved one. If you’re lucky, you might even be able to steal a few kisses and miss the movie entirely!
What are some of your favorite date night activities? Any that I’ve missed that should make the top 5 list?